ARTICLES
WHAT CHANGES IN THE MOMENTS THAT MATTER?
These articles look at Access in ordinary situations—work, relationships, decisions, parenting, and the conversations where capacities you know you have can become harder to reach.
LEADERSHIP + PERFORMANCE
Why High Performers Lose Access to Their Best Thinking
You can have the experience, discernment, and clarity—and still find that some of it becomes harder to reach once the conditions change.
DECISIONS
When You Can Afford It but the Decision Still Feels the Same
The circumstances may have changed. The way the decision organizes itself can remain surprisingly familiar.
RELATIONSHIPS
Why You Can Know Exactly What You Want to Say—Until the Other Person Responds
The point was clear before the conversation. It becomes clear again afterward. What changed while you were in it?
PARENTING
Why You Can Know Exactly How You Want to Parent—and Still Respond Differently in the Moment
You may know exactly how you want to respond. Then the moment changes what is easiest to reach.
ACCESS
You Can Have a Capacity and Still Not Be Able to Reach It
Capacity is what you have. Access is what you can reach in a particular moment. The two are not the same—and the difference changes the question you ask.
ACCESS
Access Can Change Before Your Reaction Does
The reaction is the moment we notice. Access can begin changing before the response becomes visible—and it can return. A six-stage look at that sequence.
LEADERSHIP + PERFORMANCE
What Becomes Easier to Reach Around You?
Leadership becomes part of the conditions around other people. What becomes easier—or harder—to bring into the room can change, even with the same team.
RELATIONSHIPS
The Conversation Changes What Happens Next
Conversations build. Each response changes the conditions of the next—and one change in an interaction changes the conditions for what comes next.
PARENTING
Before You Respond to Your Child, Notice Where the Response Is Coming From
Fear can give you information without making the decision. In parenting, important can start feeling urgent—and that changes what organizes the response.
RELATIONSHIPS
Your Worth Doesn't Change With Someone Else's Ability to See It
Lovable and love-ability are not the same thing. Another person's ability to see, value or love you can change. Your worth was never the variable.